“Why don’t I get asked out?” This question has always plagued so many women. There could be numerous reasons. The guy may be too shy. The timing may be off. Or he’s just not that into you. Or do you think it’s you? You’re not pretty enough. You’re not smart enough. You’re not funny enough. For many women it’s the later. It’s our low self-esteem that creates a vicious cycle of self-loathing that, in short, turns the guys off.
- Nobody fancies me. Everybody has a dry spell now and then. But if you let this thought consume you, it will cause you to:
- Ignore those checking you out and pay attention to rejection messages. All because you think “nobody fancies you.” This in turn creates:
- Feelings of unattractiveness and self-consciousness. Which can results in:
- Sloppy dress, acting unsocial and not mixing with others. This leads to more:
- You don’t get asked out, which reinforces #1 Nobody fancies you.
Breaking out of this vicious cycle may take time but it’s completely doable. It all starts with raising your self-esteem. (1) Dress up and go out with some good friends, friends that will complement you and you them. (2) Stay positive, which will cause you to laugh and smile. People are attracted to happy people; they don’t want to be around people who will bring them down. (3) Do activities that you enjoy. When you do what you love your personality shines – that’s when people will notice you. (4) And keep your eye out for those that do notice you. Let that boost your ego and raise your self-esteem. (5) Lastly, remember that confidence is sexy.
Now that you have the how to, only practice makes perfect. Get out there and start dating!
Now that you have the how to, only practice makes perfect. Get out there and start dating!
By Dao Nguyen